I was reading an article yesterday entitled the same way and it evoked in me feelings of nostalgia. when i was a kid, i too wished that my house had an attic upstairs where there would be trunks full of memorabilia perhaps filled with sepia photographs of ancestors i will never know, love letters between relatives of long ago, newspaper clippings of famous blood kin and many more. but alas my childhood home was a one story place and the only thing you could consider as a "second" floor was one step away from the "ground" floor. yes there were old photographs but they were too badly damaged you couldnt see anything clearly. i came upon letters sparingly and they werent even that old because they were perhaps only 19 years older than me.
if reality was so shockingly disappointing, my imagination when i was a kid made up for it. in my head i would find an old baul inlaid with capiz and mysteriously sealed with an iron lock. one day i'd open it and inside see pictures of my lolo's dad, letters between my great grand father and his wife or even pictures of my half uncles and half lolo's when they were kids wearing perhaps ruffled shirts and breeches. it fascinates me to see remnants of history and see the lives of times i will never experience. these people are long lost to me and through these letters, old clothes and brown-colored photographs i get to know them and how they lived or thought. like stepping inside the life of someone else and experiencing something that is utterly foreign to you.
it a surprise to realize that reality isnt always disappointing. just like the adage says if life closes its doors upon you there is a window that will surely open. it was no one's fault that my house didnt have an attic filled with bauls. but my window of opportunity opened last sem break. my lolo, mother's side, as a birthday gift to my mom gave her the love letters shared between his father and mother. my great grandfather, apparently, wrote such lovely letters in english. he had an eloquence that surpasses many of the young men today. he had a gentlemanliness than Southridge only wishes to impart on its students. and a faith that was unmovable. my great grandmother on the other hand, wrote in Spanish because she as much more fluent. with my primary knowledge of the language i wasnt able to appreciate the letters as much but from the little translations my mom gave me i found out that she was an interna, living amongst nuns, and was a very pious and holy girl. she loved her step father a lot and adored her parents but even in the face of love she would defy them to marry my great grandfather. (perhaps this is where i get my romantic tendencies). their letters are like pages from a historical romantic novel. these people, although related to me by blood, are unknown to me and despite this there is a kinship i feel now that i've read their letters. their love story has stood the test of time enough that 80+ years after their courtship, a girl like me was touched by it.
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Trunks of my life
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Thursday, November 22, 2007
the joy after the rain
it has been gloomy in my life for the past few weeks. it was a kind of gloom that not even the strongest of lights could penetrate. i was wrapped in the arms of despair and pain. there would be nights when i couldnt even find a reason to smile. only a few people out there could touch or even reach me. there were only a few who id allow to get near. even the Word couldnt push through the thick walls that enclosed me. it was a dark place, a dreary place. and i wrote, i poured out words and etched out letters. lengthy expositions about the pain that was eating me inside i filled pages upon pages of all the hurts that no one would hear. i wrote and wrote about all the tears i wish i could cry.
looking back at that dreariness, as a friend had told me, the winter of my life. i have come to realize that it is in hibernation you find the strength to endure the heat of the summer and the bleakness of autumn. now that i feel the snow melting and the ice cracking, now that spring has entered my door, i am rejuvenated to face whatever will darken my thresholds. i am a different person now, perhaps wiser and more knowledgeable, but i dont think i will forget anytime soon the winter that has just passed. many would wish to live and forget the painful times in their lives, to bury them as proverbial skeletons in the closet. but i am not as such, i prefer to remember and yes to reminisce because it is in remembering we dont forget the mistakes. of course there is a difference between remembering the hurt and dwelling in it. in all honesty my heart is still dwelling in the pain. i admit that, but i choose not to stay in dwelling.
everyday, as time passes, the pain hurts less and i am learning to forgive. i look at joven now, not with hating but with understanding. i have come to realize that in order for "us", whatever us will be, to work we have to find ourselves first. we got too caught up in the lives we had built together that we didnt know where the other started or ended, we just knew we were joined.
in many ways, being the mother in the relationship, i smothered him until he wanted out. just as he is my opposite, his carefree attitude didnt mix well with the organized complexities of my life. now that i am wiser and hopefully more learned, i wish to strike a balance between his ying and my yang. i hope that balance is attainable. and if it isnt i hope i am strong enough to accept that there are just some things i cannot fix.
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Sunday, November 18, 2007
to love a Savior
I stayed up all night, so I could get this thing right
And I don't think there's anything missing
Cause a person like you, made it easy to do
I've waited for so long, to sing to you this song
this song is stuck in my head. it has been so long since a love song struck me this way. you know how it is when some church/christian songs can somehow be used to portray the romantic love two individuals feel? like IKAW (...ang bigay ng Maykapal, tugon sa aking dasal...). this time however i thought that this song by Amel Larriex would fit the love story i began during my LSS a few years back. and it is the love that i have found in this story which makes it so easy for me to say...
what would it be like to see Jesus' eyes? would they be a pale shade of blue or an arresting shade of ember? would they be twinkling in the twilight or compelling underneath the sun? would His eyes show love and compassion to a hubmle and contrite sinner like me? will He have a perfect grin filled with pearly white teeth? will he have an adorable crooked tooth in the corner of his lips? will he even smile at me at all? i'd like to think that when i see him he'd have his arms wide open to receive someone such as me. his love is amazing in depth, height and width. his love is agape, limitless and encompassing of everything. it makes it so easy for himto love me, so much that even my existence is swallowed in. and i have come to learn, through this love of his, that he is the other half that makes me whole. and it is ONLY through him and all that he has created that i can be whole. all those people who have come into my life...friends, family, lovers...they are visions of you.
They told you about me, said you're just what she needs
And I find myself thanking your mother
For giving birth to a saint
My spirit flies when I say your name If there's one thing that's true It's that I was born to love you
it is my life' mission to worship you. my name alone, Isabel, means consecrated to God. and you are exactly what i need in the wretchedness and pain that accompany my journey. my entire spirit soars when i praise all that you have done. there arent enough words to describe how it feels do be carried in your arms and nursed by your care. truly lord you created me out of your love and to love you. i was born to love you and i am fated to die loving you.
Your smile could heal a million souls
Your love completes my existence
You're the other half that makes me whole
You're the only other half that makes me whole
You make my dreams Come true over and, over again And I honestly truly believe You and me are written in the stars I live my whole life through To giving thanks to you
yes you're eyes are the windows to heaven...and even just gazing at them i am given a glimpse of eternal peace. you're love completes my existence and you are the only other half that makes me...whole.
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Saturday, November 17, 2007
mirabilia
it's raining now. "Dreamsounds" songs are playing in my iTunes and i just had a fruitful day. it brings me back to the old days..high school days. those days when i was going through puppy love and every love song written by man were heard by my ears.
i just had a friendly "date" with Ivan tonight. and even if nothing went as planned (it was traffic and one last chance was sold out) we had fun. that's how it is between us. so easy, so carefree, so pressure-less, so free. there is nothing the other doesn't know about. and because of the many years of friendship between us there is that ease i find in no one else. we were laughing over the most mundane things while having dinner in pancake house. this is the kind of friendship that doesnt demand anything from the other person; it is limitless. we share even the most private of things...love life, sexual life, family life...name it we've talked about it. and while watching super bad we were shrieking and laughing. you know if this was a real date i would've been wondering if was too boisterous that i was turning off the guy. if it's ivan it doesnt matter! id squeeze his arms when i was getting scared...and yes i squeezed hard...but he didnt care. we held hands, hugged...acted as if we were a couple...but i didnt feel kilig (thank god) i felt comfort. it's been a long time a guy just hugged me like that...so safe.
as the different love songs play now i remember how we got to where we are now. the friendship, the courtship, the relationship, the end...and now the (best) friendship. im happy he was given to me. God does really provide for all the facets of your life. he gave me someone who will take care of the really painful, disgusting, joyful, wonderful parts of my life. in short he has give me a soul mate who kn ows me perhaps even better than i know myself. and for that i am THANKFUL.
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Wednesday, November 14, 2007
books i want for my personal library :)
JUDE DEVERAUX
- The Mulberry Tree
- The Blessing
- Twin of Fire
- Mountain Laurel
- Always
- Forever
- The Invitation
- The Heiress
- Holly
- The Raider
- Eternity
- The Princess
- Carolina Isle
- The Awakening
- Sweet Liar
- The Temptress
- The Maiden
- The Legend
- First Impressions
- Remembrance
- An Angel for Emily
- Someone to Love
- Return to Summerhouse
- Counterfeit Lady
- Lost Lady
- River Lady
- A Knight in Shining Armor (bought: December 5, 2007)
- Wishes
- The Duchess
- The Taming
- The Conquest
- The Black Lion
- The Enchanted Land
- Casa Grande
- Sweet Briar
- Remembrance
- The Summerhouse
- Secrets
- Cant take my eyes off of you
- Someone to love
- Night Whispers
- Tender Triumph
- Something Wonderful
- Almost Heaven
- Perfect(bought: December 5, 2007)
- Whitney, My Love
- Someone to Watch over Me (bought: December 5, 2007)
- Until You
- Every Breath You Take
- A gift of Love
- Water's Edge
- Simple Gifts
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tagged at
since ate kath tagged me...here i go! :)
Two names you go by:
Isabel
Sabs
Two things you are wearing right now:
pantulog
necklace
Two things you would want (or have) in a relationship:
great communication
physical and emotional intimacy
Two things you like to do:
get better (im sick! :c)
go to school (what a geek!)
Two things you want very badly at the moment:
Brooklyn pizza
the new Jude Deveraux book
Two things you did last night:
the theme for the creative's newsletter
sleep
Two things you ate today:
pesto pasta
putanesca pasta
Two people you last talked to:
Joven
my dad
Two things you’re doing tomorrow:
go to school
copy notes
Two favorite days of the week:
Friday
saturday
Two favorite holidays:
Christmas
Easter
Two favorite beverages:
coke with ice
water
Two things about me! Things you may not have known:
i have a birth mark
i almost lost a finger
Two jobs I have had in my life:
tutor
gasoline cashier
Two movies I would watch over and over:
bring it on
jerry mcguire
Two places I have lived:
62 D. Tuazon St. BF homes
Ormoc St, AHVA
Two of my favorite foods:
Suzanne's Diary for Nicholas
A Wrinkle in Time
Two places I’d rather be right now:
Baguio
Spain
now i tag LEO and JOCEL
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Tuesday, November 13, 2007
confused
he told me he loved me. he told me he was sorry. he told me he cared. wrapped in his arms i almost believed him. having him hold me that way again made everything crumble down. those words were words i have been waiting to hear. i should have felt relief but all i really was...was numb. he promised to never hurt me again. he promised to never cause me to cry. but there's something inside of me that couldnt believe him. there something inside of the that wouldn't believe him. i wanted to. oh god how much i wanted to. but at that moment i felt nothing.
i cried. because this was what i was waiting for...for so long. and now that it is finally here, it has finally come true, it wasnt even special. i looked at his eyes. wishing to see contrition and hope. i dont know if my own eyes were playing with my feelings because there was nothing but brown pools leading to infinity. he wiped my tears. pushed my hair aside. sweet and gentle gestures. but they were ghosts whispers of what i felt inside.
is there something wrong in this picture? is there something wrong with me?
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Sunday, November 11, 2007
pushed aside
the most painful experience for me in this world is that of being pushed aside. it takes so much out of me to know i am just second rate to something else, i am of less priority to someone else. i have perhaps gotten spoiled with all the attention that has come my way...achieving in high school made people know the face behind the name, dancing beneath the limelight made me more visible, etc. because of this i dont deal well in knowing i am second to something/someone.
but i didnt expect to be awaken so rudely by someone who i have treated as top priority. yes of course there would be days where he'd slip down in the hierarchy of importance but on an average he was the BEST in my life. it hurts to know that this isnt reinforced when it comes to the way he treats me. he sees me as an OBLIGATION and an EFFORT.
he is someone i must learn to let go of. he is someone i must sacrifice to become better. im slowly getting numb to the pain that, as of late, has always accompanied thoughts of him. words of love are falling on deaf ears now...my ears only hear lies. but it hurts really hurts to know that three years are down the drain, that three years worth of love has ended this way.
the cross has be borne and now i have to learn how to let it go.
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Saturday, November 10, 2007
from the love of both heart and soul
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Wednesday, November 7, 2007
dates?
so yes my love life has been down on the dumps lately. and yes i wanted to know if i could think about a man "that" way after all the crap i felt with joven. so when rey invited to go to the BEYONCE concert after a bit of hesitation i said yes.
rey has always been steady company. you didnt have to feel awkward with him and feel like you have to pull on a show. he picked me up, he met my parent and after the initial tension we were on our way. for something i had no expectations for, i had a blast. we were laughing all the way there talking about the most mundane of things and just enjoying each other's company. no matter how much i would want to say it wasnt a date, i'm pretty sure others would think it was one. and after being out of the dating-coz-im-sorta-single scene for a long time, it was refreshing. yes i was nervous. the normal questions like "what should i wear?", "do i look hot?", "what should i say?", "is this enough make up?", etc were in my head. to the point that i was still changing outfits 30mins before he was supposed to pick me up. i was nut case, that my brother was laughing. he was saying "yihee cuenca!". hay naku! younger brothers i think were equipped with this, wait till he gets a girl friend.
we arrived in the fort area an hour before the concert. around 6pm? [OKAY FOR ALL THOSE WHO WANT THE NITTY GRITTY ILL TRY TO SPILL OUT FOR YOU HERE OKAY?] we havent eaten yet so we decided to scour high street before hitting the open field. we walked, damn did we walk! we couldnt find a nice place to eat that didnt have a lot of people. so we ended up eating pasta in seatle's best. by this time gian had called alongside other members of the youth. so im guessing everyone on saturday might know this little secret of mine. so we ordered, he had ametriciana and i had pesto. while eating rey goes "i dont know if this is a joke..." and then he showed me gian's text " i think she wants to kiss you..". in my head i wanted to kill gian for putting thoughts into his head, by verbally i said "he's joking." i checked my own phone and true enough gian sent a similar text. but the funny thing he wasnt the only one creating havoc that night. alongside gian, leo and ivan texted. leo was a bit more blatant (guard you carnal treasure" while ivan was being the best friend that he is " by have fun in the concert. but not too much fun. play hard to get.really hard to get... :)". talk about guardian angels!
after dinner we finally headed out to the concert area. on the while there, amidst giggles, we see a guy in a black car waving at us. only to find that it was martin Gonzalez and bea in their car looking for a parking spot. we waved back and went on our way. we found our spot, hoping to see a clear view of the stage but just in case there was a big ass screen in front of us. the front line act was this rapper guy named picasso (?) who was really weird. rey decided to make him gago buy acting all ghetto and ghangsta. [which i didnt like but...i made him do his thang.] when beyonce came out it was really something. i dont think you'll see that kind of special effects from local artists. i totally drooled over the male dancers. if jocel was there, all those men would put "laglag panty" to shame because these dancers were more laglag panty and oogle friendly if you know what i mean. hahaha we tried dancing to the hip hop songs and tried singing to the senti ones. [we tried.] okay i dont know whether it was tsansing or if he really was tired but he kept leaning his head on my shoulders. he had the attack of the sinuses and i could see he was having a real hard time. but leaning on my shoulder?? is this the new way of trying to hold someone's hand? but i liked it better when he tried swaying me. it wasnt that weird. i dont know. i usually like the physical stuff you know kisses and hugs. but i think last night was too soon. the leaning on my shoulder was pushing it, but the swaying..hmmm...it reached a 3 out of 10 in the kilig scale. hihi [ insert blushing smiley here.] i havent been kilig for the longest time, god knows, but at that moment it felt great knowing im not headed for lesbianism. [im still attracted to guys!]
the drive home was even more hilarious. he hit his head on the window trying to sneeze and his colds were making it hard for him to breathe. he looked adorable. and i was scared, i didnt know if he was fit to drive us back to alabang. we decided to go to starbucks madrigal after the concert so he could get something hot for his colds. we went and it was even more kwentuhan. it was intimate not in the physical sense [damn your dirty minds] but it was as if we were storytelling what our lives were like before meeting each other. he's the only child, i'm the oldest, he wants to stay in college, i want to work, he's leaving for the states, i see myself staying in the philippines. stuff like that. and its nice to find someone i could talk to. i thrive on conversations. and thats how my "beyonce experience" ended.
a beso. goodnight. take care. drive safe. thank you.
i was off to bed.
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Tuesday, November 6, 2007
to you mombabe
What's wrong, whats getting you down
Is it something I might have said?
You're walking around
with your head to the ground
and your eyes are watery red
I know you've been through rough times Kicked around, thrown to the ground but you've always been the strong one
So don't tell me that nobody gets you
'cause I'm standing in your corner
Knocking at your door
You don't have to be alone
Just call my name Let me be an answer
'cause it hurts me to see you this way
I wanna ease your pain
Help me understand
Let me be your shelter my friend
We share a bond You and I we belong We're like coffee and morning trains
You strip my defenses
I catch your pretenses
The same blood runs through our veins
I swore I'd be your lifeline
Made a vow that I'd surround you with love at every milestone
I'll listen when nobody gets you I'm still standing in your corner Waiting by your door You don't have to be alone
Just call my name
Let me be an answer
'cause it hurts me to see you this way
I wanna ease your pain
Help me understand
Let me be your shelter my friend
It was not too long ago You sought to understand You helped me mend Remember when So promise me you'll
Call my name
Let me be an answer
'cause it hurts me to see you this way
I wanna ease your pain
Help me understand
Let my be your shelter my friend
do you know when i first heard this song i remembered you? it may have been destiny or even fate that lead you to this singer and in turn you lead me to her. as i listened to her voice croon out the ballad, i heard our heart's voices sing alongside hers. this may be her words, this may be her melody but it is ours as well.
life had dealt us a mean stack of cards. after we build our house on seemingly firm foundations, they crumble down hard. but i have found a firm foundation in our relationship. one that i dont see falling or crumbling or breaking after a strong wind has blown. and i am grateful and blessed. we both know how hard it is to feel as if we are alone or unwanted. and it is funny even if we are ages apart, our lives walk parallel journeys. you told me before that you see yourself in me, and i take that as a compliment. you are extremely strong. for someone so petite you carry the courage of a six feet man. i have seen you tumble and you have allowed me to gaze upon the scars of past wars. and i admire you for moving on in the name of God. that has been my inspiration and yes, my example. i wish to be as you are someday. to walk with my head held high despite the cross that is bearing me down.
so with corrinne i sing these few lines as a song to you...
You sought to understand
You helped me mend
Remember when
So promise me you'll
Call my name
Let me be an answer
'cause it hurts me to see you this way
I wanna ease your pain
Help me understand
Let my be your shelter my friend
i think we are kindred spirits crafted from the same clay.
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happiness
i spent today with jocel and jules. so much has changed since the last time we got together. we used to be circle B but right now the three musketeers has disbanded. i miss the way we used to hang out before, just stay in jules's house and watch stuff, or taking ridiculous number of photos in photo booth, drive around in search of ghosts, pray together. stuff like that.
you could say we're finding our own way. you could say the things that used to hold us together have now been out grown. but for a few moments this afternoon time chose to turn back its hands and bring us back to where we used to be.
there we were smoking shisha watching "how i met your mother" and eating food. we really didn't need eloquent words to convey what the absence has made us feel. we had our touch. stories moved back and forth. a new girl here, weight issues there, a date here, movies there...so on and so forth. you could imagine our reunion to be a bustle of activity.
i'm glad i took the time out before school began to get back to my roots. this is happiness to me. to be reminded of where i came from.
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